What is the Difference Between a Squirting Orgasm, Female Ejaculation, and Sexual Incontinence?

In this Article

  • Other Names for a Squirting Orgasm
  • What is the Difference Between a Squirting Orgasm, Female Ejaculation, and Sexual Incontinence?
  • Myths and Misconceptions About Squirting Orgasms
  • How to Explore Squirting
  • Safety Advice and Special Considerations

Squirting refers to fluid expelled from the vagina during orgasm. Not all people with vaginas squirt during orgasm, and christian mingle those who do may only squirt some of the time. This type of orgasm includes a rapid ejection of urine from the bladder.

Squirting sometimes also involves secretions from the skene’s gland. The skene’s glands are sometimes called the female prostate because they function similarly to the male prostate.

Other Names for a Squirting Orgasm

A squirting orgasm is sometimes called female ejaculation. But this term excludes non-binary and trans people who are not female but have vaginas.Â

A recent study has shown that there is a difference between squirting, female ejaculation, and incontinence during sex. However, the term squirting is used to describe all three in everyday language.

All three of these phenomena involve fluid coming from the bladder during sex. Squirting is the expulsion of urine during an orgasm. Female ejaculation is a release of both urine and a substance from the skene’s glands. Sexual incontinence — also called coital incontinence —  is when someone loses control of their bladder during sex.

Ejaculation in people with vaginas may include a small release of a milky white liquid that does not gush out. Squirting, on the other hand, is usually a higher volume. It is possible to squirt and ejaculate at the same time.Â

Myths and Misconceptions About Squirting Orgasms

Squirting is real. In fact, scientists have documented the phenomenon. However, more research is needed to determine the exact causes of squirting and female ejaculation.Â

Part of the ambiguity about squirting is that the skene’s glands vary from person to person. Some people with vaginas don’t have any, while others have very small ones.

Each person’s experience with squirting is different. While some methods can make people squirt more than others, there is no one proven method that makes every person with a vagina squirt. This is because each vagina is different. As mentioned, some vaginas lack the skene’s glands which are thought to create the fluid released during ejaculation in people who have vulvas.Â

Squirting isn’t always a high volume event that soaks the sheets. Sometimes it is a small trickle or a stream of fluid.Â

The depiction of squirting in porn movies often shows large gushes of squirting liquid. Porn producers fake some of these depictions for dramatic effect. All volumes and forms of squirting are valid. Squirting at different volumes is a normal occurrence during sex for many people.

Some people can squirt or ejaculate before or after an orgasm. Squirting can also occur at the same time as an orgasm. Some people also have multiple spurts of squirting spread over a few minutes.

How to Explore Squirting

Some sex experts recommend stimulating the g-spot to achieve a squirting orgasm. Either by yourself or with a partner, take some time to find the g-spot with your fingers and/or sex toys. Pressure on the g-spot may make you feel the need to urinate.

Experiment with different methods of bringing yourself or your partner to a squirting orgasm with g-spot stimulation. Some ideas include:

  • Using sex toys specifically designed to stimulate the g-spot
  • Combining clitoral stimulation with g-spot stimulation
  • Using lots of lubrication
  • Bearing down on your pubococcygeal (pelvic) muscles when nearing orgasm

Safety Advice and Special Considerations

For some people, putting too much pressure on the g-spot can feel uncomfortable. Listen to your body and do what feels good. If you are too tense it may be harder to orgasm or squirt.Â